This one, everyone should read

Hi people!! 💓

Me again! This one will probably be an atypical post because first of all it's going to be published in English. And second of all because it's not necessarily #momlife related. BUT I believe that this might be a message that a lot of people need to hear: 

JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE IS SAYING THAT YOU ARE TOO DIFFICULT TO DEAL WITH, DOES NOT NECESSARILY MEAN THAT YOU ARE TOO DIFFICULT TO DEAL WITH. 

YOU WILL NEVER BE GOOD ENOUGH FOR THAT SPECIFIC PERSON (RIGHT NOW)

This might not be a message that everyone wants to hear. Especially if you ever been in a relationship or multiple where you had to hear this kind of message. But i've had to deal with this in my past. And although I wish my ex(es) and people i've lost in the past, the very best, I've also noticed that the kind of people that say this to you, are also the kind ones that aren't willing to grow. Yet. And that's a VERY important sentence. 

When someone is not ready to grow as an individual, they might project their insecurities and things they tend to struggle with, on you, by saying things like: 'You are too difficult to deal with.'. What they're actually saying is: 'You are too difficult to deal with FOR ME.'. I believe that when you connect with someone, in any kind of relationship, the connection goes deeper than just the physical attraction, your similarities and your differences. People tend to forget that there is a spiritual level that is impossible to deny on the long term. We are all spiritual beings which means that most of us change. And change is not a bad thing. Change is scary, it's leaving your comfort zone but it needs to happen if you want to grow as an individual. I personally believe that you have to re-meet the closest people in your life. For example: You're in a relationship with your partner for almost 10 years and  the both of you had to face a lot of difficulties and struggles on a personal level. YOU are willing to work on yourself for you and the sake of the relationship but your partner rather ignores whatever is going on inside of him/her and after a while you aren't able to recongnize each other anymore. Now, that's a huge thing to see and to give attention to. It doesn't matter how hard you'll try to explain yourself or worse: how much you will try to fix the other person. These two scenarios simply never work out. Because you've already lost each other on a spiritual level. And it's only when your partner for example is also ready to make a change and to face their issues, that the both of you can work it through. I also believe that this is the exact thing that's causes a lot of break-ups. 

No one stays the same for their entire life. NO ONE. And it just might be easier for someone to say that 'You are too difficult to deal with' instead of 'Maybe I have to face whatever is going on.'. That person might not be ready yet or maybe will never be. It's not up to you to fix their issues and It's not up to you to start doubting yourself. 

Not everyone is even aware of the changes that they go through as an individual. Try to realize that growth is part of life and growing apart in some circumstances is also part of life. You don't have to defend yourself. You don't have to waste your time arguing. You are not difficult to deal with. Your personality is what makes you, YOU. Your growth, is what makes you change. 

And change is good. 

Love, 

An honest mom (friend, family member and partner).